I Love Coaching - The Many Gifts of Coaching

Coaching Dream Board

Last night, it was my joy to begin a coaching journey with a new coach, and I am excited about where this new journey will take me.  I have a goal in mind, and a destination, and it is my hope that, with the support of my coach, I will achieve that goal and reach my destination in a much shorter time.

Coaching is a gift. It is a sacred space and time, created especially for YOU.  And that is what a coach does. They hold a space for you. A sacred time and space that is dedicated to YOU, whoever you are, for whatever your needs are in that moment, time and space.

 Every good coach should have a coach, as well as be a coach to others, and I enjoy being coached almost as much as I love coaching. Coaching is such a wonderul and dynamic partnership.

As a coach myself, I am especially aware of the unique and beautiful relationship that develops between a coach and their client.

I like to think of coaching as a win-win-win situation.  In coaching, there are no losers.    The magic of coaching is that Everyone wins!

A coach does not set out to win.  A coachs goal is to get their client through the finishing line in first place, and they focus their energy and attention on enabling their client to do just that.

A coach's client sets out to win, but in doing so gives the gift of themself to their coach. As a client, you will share a close intimate personal relationship with your coach, laying  your soul bare in away that you will do with no other person, sure in the knowledge that whatever you share will be held safe and sacred in the arms of your coach.

Everyone around you wins!  As you start to succeed, improve and uplift in the various areas of your life, so you automatically uplift those around you.

"And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” from A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson

I am so thankful and grateful for the new coach who has come into my life, and to all the coaches that preceded her and will follow her.  Each one has something special to offer, and each one has been gracious enough to share their gifts with me.  I thank them all and love each and every one of them, for being part of my life, and for the part they have played in helping shape me into the person I am today, and the person I am growing to be.

I am looking forward with excitement  to my own ongoing  coaching journey and I invite and encourage you to do the same!  

Happy Easter Weekend!

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What Are You Excited About Today?

HelterSkelter - Easy to slide down, Tough to climb back up

HI There,
Its been a while!

Just wondering how 2014 is treating you?

For me it's already been  year of changes.

I finished up my latest Temp job, the first week in January, and, after a short break, I am happy to say that I am embarking on a new journey.  I have secured a part-time job at a "People-Building" company and I'm really excited to be working with a great bunch of new people and working in line with the vision I am creating for myself.  Not only that, but the part-time nature of the job allows me the security of a regular income together with the flexibility to build and pursue my own dreams.


Now, what about you?  What are you excited about today? And if you are not already excited, what could you choose to be excited about?

Now -I hear you saying "Its alright for you.  Your life seems to be going great".  Believe me,although I am very excited about the new direction my life is taking me in, there are still a lot of challenges in my life right now.  I could choose to focus on any one of them.  And I could choose to focus on any one of them with fear or excitement.

Topsy Turvy - How do you handle it when your world turns upside down?

When your partner is retrenched or "downgraded", your child is evicted, and your roommate is severely depressed, its so easy to focus on the downside.  But focussing on the downside just draws you into a negative spiral, a tailspin that's hard to recover from.  So why not try to focus on the positive?  It may be hard in the moment, but ultimately, it's easier to look down on things from a positive perspective than to claw your way back up from rock bottom.

On top of the world -  Its an exciting ride

So, if you are having a tough time today, can I invite you to find ONE thing to be excited about and focus your attention on?  So, let me ask again:

What are you EXCITED about today?

Hope you have a great day!  We'll chat again soon!



Love, Karen

PS: For a FREE COPY of my Guide:  HOW TO PULL YOURSELF UP BY YOUR BOOTSTRAPS
WHEN YOU ARE AT ROCK BOTTOM, email me at: amazingcoach2014@gmail.com with the subject:  BOOTSTRAP GUIDE

“If we live our lives looking for the excitement and exhilaration that change can bring, we will be much happier than when we are eventually forced to accept it anyways.” 
― Daniel Willey

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Day 13/60 - The Law of Transition

It's been a long break since completing day 12, but I love the Law of Transition. It's perfect for where I am in my life right now.

According to the Collins Concise Dictionary +, transition means:

" to change or passage from one state or stage to another."

I am currently in the midst of my own transitioning, and I guess that may be why I relate so well to this law.

The basic premise is that if you are not happy with your present circumstances, it is for one of two reasons. Either you don’t know what you want, or you know what you want but you don’t know how to get it. (In the context of Law 13, the book focuses mainly on transitioning from work you don’t enjoy to something you do).
The first step in transitioning from what you don’t’ want to be, do or have, to where you do want to be, do, or have, is to clearly define what you want. To paraphrase from the book (You can have an amazing life in just 60 days – Dr John de Martini) “If you are not clear about what you want, why would the universe give it to you?”

What about you?

It's the beginning of a New Year. Have you set yourself some new resolutions, some new goals? Do you know what you want? Are you getting ready to transition during 2012?

John’s advice: “Start a blueprint. You might need advice from a mentor or coach during the process.”

So far, I’m feeling pretty good! I’ve already defined my dream career, and am busy designing and implementing a blueprint for my dream work/life.

I’d love to share more of this law with you, but to be fair to the author, and to you, I highly recommend reading the book. I would love to hear your thoughts, comments, inspirations and insights on it!


Happy Day!



© 2012 Design A Dream

Day 12/60 - The Law of Poise

Quote: "The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it." Henry David Thoreau

Dr John De Martin writes:
"Poise is healing and magnetic. It is a centering process that allows us to remain focussed and avoid distractions. This state helps you accomplish your dreams and visions and gives you the capacity for leadership no matter what the situation."

This is an especially valuable lesson for me at this particular point in my life.

Just having committed myself to a strict employment schedule, I need to find the careful balance that will allow me to remain focussed, and accomplish my dreams and visions while at the same time fulfilling my work obligations, and sharing time with my family.

Life is a constant balancing act, and very often we will have to make choices and compromises in order to maintain that balance. Therefore, it is very important to know what we want, to know what is important to us, to know where our values and priorities lie, to know what our hopes dreams and goals are.

The Law of Poise is a natural law of the Universe. For every negative there is a positive. For every action, there is an equal but opposite reaction. Every transaction has two sides. A buyer, a seller, a giver, a receiver or taker. A question. An answer. A decision. A choice.

It is the nature of the Universe to maintain balance.

When we are feeling balanced, we are at peace, in harmony with ourselves, our surroundings, our environment. When we are out of balance, we feel irritable, frustrated, angry, or sad, overjoyed, manic, wired...


Where are you on the balance scale today? Are you facing changes in your own life? Major or minor? Are you feeling out of balance? Off kilter?

Whenever we are faced with a new situation, we may find ourselves out of our comfort zone, It is natural for the pendulum to swing from side to side until we find that natural balance, our "new normal".

Don't stress! Hang on tight and try to enjoy the ride! Get into the rhythm of your new life!
In the words of Dr John " ..if you're a master of circumstance and you just dance, you stay poised"
I hope you dance!

Happy Day!


© 2011 Design A Dream

Thoughts on Things

You may have noticed that my recent blog posting has become rather spasmodic. There are reasons (and excuses) for that!

While working on the blogpost for Day 11/60 (The Law of Meditation), it occured to me that I was going about things all wrong!

While it is true that I hit a stumbling block with Meditation, it is probably more accurate to say that it was my uncertainty and fear of vulnerability in deciding how much of myself to share that created the long delay in my posting.

In hindsight, I realise that what I should have been doing is continuing the 60 day journey whilst continuing to practice the meditation, something I should be doing daily in any case! So, hopefully, from here on out, I will be back on track!

I was recently lucky enough to be offered a job, and am currently adjusting to the new hours and schedule.

With a limited amount of free time available to me, it has become more important than ever to prioritise and value the things that are important to me and to tailor my time accordingly.

At the moment, I am trying to find a balance that will enable me to fulfill my employment obligations, enable me to share time with my family and friends and allow me to continue on the path to achieving my hopes, dreams and goals.

I am committed to continuing my blogposting and my 60 day journey and I will do my best to post on a regular (daily) basis.

I hope you will forgive me and bear with me if I find myself not equal to this commitment.

I truly value your support and input.

Thank you for sharing this time with me, and I hope you will enjoy my next post in the 60 day journey : Day 12/60 - The Law of Poise....


Happy Day!
© 2011 Design A Dream

Day 11 / 60 - The Law of Meditation

On Day 11, I hit a stumbling block. Not so much with the Law of Meditation, but with myself. I have been struggling for the past few weeks as to how I should share this, and how much of it I should share of it with you.

It has taken me several weeks consideration, but below is my personal, private journal entry in it's entirety. It may not mean much to you, but it is very personal to me, so I hope you will respect the honesty, even if the post does not reflect the Law of Meditation in action. I don't know, maybe it does?

Journal Entry (21/6/2011)

"This is a tough one! I am still struggling with it.
It brings up a lot of questions. I'm thinking maybe I should just "let go", but it's easier said than done. I am very resistant to this process. And yet, I want to perfect the process, so I will persevere. Practice makes perfect, and I know it will become easier with practice.

At the moment, I have a lot of questions. I feel very negative. I want to persue my goal of being SA's No 1 Life Coach, and I am working towards it.

Am I just kidding myself? Should I just quit? I'm "doing" all these things, but am I actually being productive? What am I doing? What help do I need? What is the most productive thing I can do? What do I need to do? In what order? WWWWWH?

Is this part of the meditation process? Passive/Active - Access = How do I access that part of myself? Do I need to give up / give in? I am always "trying" instead of just "being", but how can I achieve anything if I am not taking action? What actions should I be taking?

Over the past few months/years I have been "trying" a lot of different strategies, but I don't seem to be getting anywhere.

We have fallen so far back, I am very afraid that we will never recover. I keep trying different things, but nothing seems to work out. What should I be doing? What do I need to be doing?

Am I doing the right thing? Is my energy too negative. What do I need to do to change it?"


This concludes my journal entry. I hope you will pause and reflect on it before going on to my next post. I have a lot of thoughts to share on The Law of Meditation and what I have learned so far, before going on to Day 12 (The Law of Poise).

© 2011 Design A Dream

Law of Attraction Literature

Hi There,

Sorry I have been AWOL for so long, but here I am again!

You may have noticed I haven't yet posted Day 11 of An Amazing Life. Don't worry, I haven't forgotten or given up! Its just that I have been struggling with it.
Day 11 is on The Law of Meditation. It's something that I'm determined to practice and perfect over time, but it wont be hurried.

In the meantime, I've been doing lots of research and other things, so I thought I'd share a few ideas about Law of Attraction Literature.

I'm a huge fan of motivational and inspirational literature. When I'm feeling down, depressed or unmotivated, I'll often pick up a book for inspiration and it usually helps me change my focus and leads me out of my funk.

There are a lot of great books out there, offering motivational, inspirational, and self-help advice for every aspect of your life, from health to wealth, relationships to happiness. There are books that focus on a single aspect or books that cover the whole spectrum in one single volume.

I was introduced to "positive thinking" and "the law of attraction" when I was in my teens.
I started with the classics like "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale, and "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. I still have these classics in my library, and over the years have amassed quite a collection.

In recent years, the book "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne has taken the world by storm, introducing a vast new audience to the "Law of Attraction.

I think that the "Law of Attraction" and the "Power of Positive Thinking" are fascinating concepts. I have dabbled with it from time to time, and got some interesting results.

I recently picked up "Think and Grow Rich" again. I've started re-reading it, with new, more mature eyes, and I'm gaining a lot of insight and wisdom from it.

I am not a naturally positive person. I struggle with depression. I am quite shy, timid and fearful by nature, so for me, it's not an easy process to practice positivity. What I have learnt though, is that we do have a deeper connection to the Universe that is readily available to us when we learn how to access it. ( The trick is to learn to access it quickly and easily on a regular basis.)

Edgar Cayce, the world-reknowned American psychic (1877 - 1945) called it the Superconscious Mind (Spirit) - "at-one-ment with God".

I call it "The Knowing"

Don't get me wrong though! Although books are a great source for advice, inspiration and knowledge, there is still no substitute for taking positive action.

With this in mind, I have created a survey on Law of Attraction Literature, as research for a project I am considering.

If you would like to, I invite you to complete my "Law of Attraction Literature Survey". If so, just click on the link!

Click here to take survey

I'm really looking forward to continuing the Meditation process, as this is one of the ways to get into attunement with your subconscious and superconscious minds.

I'll keep you "posted" as to how successful I am!


Happy Day!


© 2011 Design A Dream

Day10/60 - The Law of Certainty

OK! Today's law is the Law of Certainty. One thing I am certain of, I am not going to complete "You Can Have An Amazing Life in 60Days" in 60 days! Although I am certain that I am going to persevere and I am going to complete it!

The theme of today's lesson is that by being certain about things, you create an aura of confidence around you that inspires other people to have confidence in you.

A feeling of certainty, a feeling of knowing, creates confidence and eliminates doubt. It offers a feeling of safety and security.

Being certain gives you an air of authority.

Last week, I had a breakthough. A sudden sense of absolute certainty about where I should be going and what I should be doing with my life.
I don't often have that sense of absolute certainty in my life,beyond all reasonable doubt, but when I do, I call it the KNOWING. It is an unwaivering connection to something deep within. A sense of absolute knowing. No self-doubt.

In his book, Dr De Martini says you can add the quality of certainty to your life by:

Studying the area in which you want to have certainty
Rehearsing any necessary & associated skills.
Practice acting with certainty. Be, act "as if"

I don't know yet how I am going to accomplish my goal, and it is a BIG goal, but I KNOW, with certainty:

1. That it is possible.
2. That I can accomplish it

I feel it in my body, in my heart, in my soul. And when I feel it in my body, heart and soul, I feel the difference within myself. I feel the shift. I feel it in my committment.I feel it in my posture, in the way I carry myself, and I feel it in my level of confidence.

I've had a couple of fearful, doubting moments, but I've managed to push them aside on the wave of inspiration that I'm riding. I don't discount these moments, but I refuse to entertain them.

I KNOW that nothing great is ever achieved without risk attached.
I KNOW that FEAR and doubt are my own self-defence/survival mechanisms kicking in to save me from myself!
I KNOW that if I choose to, I can work through these fears to the rich rewards beyond.

I KNOW!

What do you KNOW?

Happy Day!

© 2011 Design A Dream